Marriage and Gender Roles

Where it surfaces

• Back to Baltimore

  The narrator's primary grievance is being managed by a woman, Mrs. Hayes, whom he believes gained control of the club through marriage. He expresses a strong opinion that a woman should not be in a position of power over a baseball team.

• I

  Larry's letters reveal traditional gender roles and marital tensions, with Minnie spending money on clothes and Larry complaining about her behavior.

• V

  The chapter explores the dynamics of engagement and the expectations placed on men and women in relationships, as seen through Ike's reluctant engagement and Dolly's decisive action.

• I

  Ethel's insistence on the narrator's confession and her role in his emotional life highlight traditional gender roles within marriage.

• IV

  The marriage nuptials and Ethel's assertion of ownership over the money highlight gender roles within the marriage.

• Champion

  Midge's treatment of his wife Emma and his mother reflects traditional gender roles where women are dependent on men, but Midge shirks his responsibilities, revealing the darker side of these roles.

• III

  Ellen's family includes unmarried aunts and a brother's happy marriage, while Ellen and Billy's courtship follows traditional gender roles.

• IV

  Billy's meeting with Ellen's father centers on his ability to support a wife, highlighting traditional expectations.

• Tour Y-10

  The narrator's interactions with male admirers and her thoughts on marriage ('The man I marry must take me by storm') reflect contemporary expectations and her ambivalence about domesticity.

• V

  Harry Childs's desire to marry Mary Lloyd and the players' attitudes toward women reflect traditional gender roles and courtship norms.

• VII

  Lefty's pragmatic approach to marriage, viewing it as a practical arrangement rather than a romantic one, reflects traditional gender roles and expectations.

• The Clubby Roadster

  The trip reveals the strains in Harry and Nan's marriage, with Harry's dismissive attitude toward his wife's concerns and Nan's emotional distress, reflecting traditional gender roles and marital tensions.

• III: Erie Lake

  The newlywed couple's repetitive dialogue and the parents' commentary highlight the mundane realities and expectations of marriage.

• IX: The Bureau of Manhattan

  The exchange between the mother and father highlights traditional gender roles and marital tension, as the father makes plans without consulting the mother and leaves her to wait.

• I: Quick Returns

  Ella's plan to 'manage' Kate and find her a husband highlights the traditional gender roles and the importance of marriage for women in this era.

• II: Ritchey

  Ella's focus on finding a husband for Kate and the narrator's role as the breadwinner highlight traditional gender roles and the importance of marriage for women's security.

• IV: Only One

  Kate's hesitation to accept Daley's proposal and Ella's advice highlight gender dynamics and expectations in relationships.

• Some Like Them Cold

  The engagement between Lewis and Betsy, with her conditions about not being a 'slave' and attending shows nightly, challenges traditional gender roles.

• The Golden Honeymoon

  The chapter explores the dynamics of a long marriage, including petty quarrels, reconciliation, and the negotiation of social obligations.

• Bluebeard

  The story satirizes marriage as a transactional arrangement, with the wife marrying for wealth and the husband exerting control through prohibition and violence.

• Haircut

  The strained marriage between Jim and his wife highlights the economic dependence of women and the lack of recourse for abuse.

• Mr. and Mrs. Fix-It

  The narrator's wife Ada is portrayed as unable to say no to her friends, while the narrator feels his home is being taken over by the Stevenses, highlighting the dynamics of their marriage and societal expectations.

• Zone of Quiet

  Miss Lyons discusses her views on marriage, preferring a man with regular office hours over a doctor, and comments on the age difference between herself and the patient.

• The Love Nest

  The chapter starkly contrasts the public facade of a perfect marriage with the private reality of a wife trapped in a role she despises, highlighting the constraints placed on women.

• A Day with Conrad Green

  Green's marriage is transactional, with his wife feeling ignored and resentful of his social climbing. He also has a mistress, Rose, whom he has failed to support, highlighting the unequal power dynamics in his personal relationships.

• Who Dealt?

  The narrator discusses the differences between husbands and wives, using the Guthries as an example of incompatible tastes, while asserting her own marriage is harmonious despite minor disagreements. She also recounts how she changed Tom's habits, such as making him wear pajamas instead of nightgowns, reflecting gender expectations.

• I Can’t Breathe

  Ella's engagement and the pressure to marry at a young age, along with her mother's disapproval, highlight societal expectations for women in the 1920s.

• XXI: I First Marry in Central Park—Lapland Lady for Bride

  The narrator is pursued by a persistent woman, and the wedding is orchestrated by the bride, subverting traditional gender roles.

• On My Honeymoon

  The honeymoon and joint business venture highlight the dynamics of the newlywed couple, with Hugga playing a practical role in decision-making.

• XXIII: My Romance Blasted

  The narrator's account of his divorce highlights the complexities and public scrutiny of marital relationships.

• My Divorce Trial

  The trial highlights the legal and social dynamics of marriage, with the wife receiving alimony and a house, while the husband narrates the experience with a tone of resignation and humor.

• Now and Then

  Irma's letters reveal the dynamics of a marriage where the husband is possessive and controlling, while the wife is expected to be devoted and accommodating.

• Anniversary

  Mrs. Taylor's quiet dissatisfaction and the contrasting violent marriage of Grace and Ed highlight the constraints and disappointments of marital roles.

• Liberty Hall

  The narrator's role as the wife who must manage social obligations and her husband's discomfort highlights traditional gender roles in marriage.

• Wedding Day

  The wedding is a transaction, not a romantic union. Brownie uses the threat of a lawsuit to force a proposal, while Jimmy marries her to avoid legal and financial consequences. The chapter satirizes the institution as a power struggle.

• Dinner

  The dinner party is a social ritual aimed at pairing off eligible bachelors with single women. Grace Halpern explicitly tries to match Harry with the 'peaches' from out of town, highlighting the social pressure to marry.

• Ex Parte

  The narrator's story highlights the double standard in divorce, where a man is always blamed, and the conflict over the home, which is the wife's domain.

• Contract

  The chapter explores the dynamics of the Shelton marriage, with Mrs. Shelton's desire for social life and Shelton's reluctant compliance for her sake. The bridge party also reveals traditional gender roles, as the women are often the most vocal critics.

• High-Rollers

  The chapter illustrates the dynamic between Walter and Marion, where Marion's desires dictate their decisions, and Walter's role is to provide and acquiesce. Marion's gambling and social life are central to the plot.

• That Old Sweetheart of Mine

  Stella's life is defined by her role as a wife, and her loneliness and boredom within that role are central to the chapter. Her decision to meet Will is a quiet rebellion against the constraints of her marriage.

• Enter the Heroine

  Booth's comment about marriage regaining sanctity if husbands and wives were sick together touches on traditional views of marriage.