# Rupert Birkin — Women in Love character guide > Rupert Birkin in Women in Love by D. H. Lawrence. **Role:** major **Also known as:** Birkin, Mr. Birkin, Rupert, Mrs. Birkin **First appearance:** 0001-ii-shortlands ## Snapshot A school inspector who argues that love-and-marriage has been set too high on its pedestal, Birkin wants a bond broader than the usual man-and-woman relation. ## Who they are Birkin moves through the novel as its restless theorist, flattering older women, provoking Gerald with talk of an additional perfect relationship between man and man, and pressing Ursula to accept something non-emotional and final in him. He contradicts himself, hates feelings, and yet genuinely wants to be acknowledged rather than merely used. His arguments with Ursula and Gerald set the terms for everything the book is trying to work out. ## Relationships ### [Ursula Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/ursula_brangwen) _romantic_ Intense lovers who struggle toward a balanced, modern relationship. ### [Gudrun Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/gudrun_brangwen) _psychological_ A tense, intellectual sparring relationship where Gudrun resists Birkin's influence. ### [Hermione Roddice](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/hermione_roddice) _romantic_ Former lovers with a toxic, power-driven dynamic that ends in bitterness. ### [Halliday](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/halliday) _friendship_ Former friends with a strained, resentful dynamic after Birkin rejects their bohemian lifestyle. ### [Ursula Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/ursula_brangwen) _romantic_ Intense lovers who struggle toward a balanced, modern relationship. ### [Ursula Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/ursula_brangwen) _romantic_ Intense lovers who struggle toward a balanced, modern relationship. ### [Gudrun Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/gudrun_brangwen) _psychological_ A tense, intellectual sparring relationship where Gudrun resists Birkin's influence. ### [Gudrun Brangwen](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/gudrun_brangwen) _psychological_ A tense, intellectual sparring relationship where Gudrun resists Birkin's influence. ### [Hermione Roddice](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/hermione_roddice) _romantic_ Former lovers with a toxic, power-driven dynamic that ends in bitterness. ### [Hermione Roddice](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/hermione_roddice) _romantic_ Former lovers with a toxic, power-driven dynamic that ends in bitterness. ### [Halliday](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/halliday) _friendship_ Former friends with a strained, resentful dynamic after Birkin rejects their bohemian lifestyle. ### [Halliday](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/halliday) _friendship_ Former friends with a strained, resentful dynamic after Birkin rejects their bohemian lifestyle. ## In the story ### [II: Shortlands](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/ii-shortlands) Debates with Gerald, advocating for spontaneous individuality and dismissing standards; later has a tense, intimate conversation with Mrs. Crich about the non-existence of most people. ### [Classroom](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/iii-classroom) Argues passionately for a dark, involuntary sensuality, criticizing mental self-consciousness; his physical attractiveness strikes Ursula. ### [In the Train](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/v-in-the-train) Engages in intense philosophical debate with Gerald, expressing despair about humanity and a desire for finality in love. ### [VI: Crème de Menthe](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/vi-cr-me-de-menthe) Birkin is present at the café, acting as a mediator between the Pussum and Halliday, and introduces Gerald to the group. ### [VII: Fetish](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/vii-fetish) Appears in white pyjamas, defends the African carving as high art of pure sensation, and is mad with irritation at the party's friability. ### [VIII: Breadalby](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/viii-breadalby) Downcast and humiliated by Hermione's ridicule, he later dances with gaiety, argues passionately about equality and the spirit, and feels compunction after being cruel to Hermione. ### [XI: An Island](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xi-an-island) Birkin is repairing a punt on the millpond, discusses his disillusionment with love and social ideals, and reveals he has ended his relationship with Hermione and taken rooms at the mill. ### [XII: Carpeting](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xii-carpeting) Birkin is resistant to Hermione's gifts and control, discusses the dual will in horses with Gerald, and is seen as destructive and analytical by Ursula and Hermione. ### [XIII: Mino](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xiii-mino) Articulates his vision of a relationship beyond love, based on impersonal balance and primal connection. ### [XIV: Water-Party](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xiv-water-party) Rows Gerald back after his dives and later becomes the object of Ursula's intense waiting and desire. ### [XV: Sunday Evening](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xv-sunday-evening) Birkin is mentioned as the object of Ursula's intense hatred; his presence is felt as a 'beam of essential enmity' that defines her own nonexistence. ### [Man to Man](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xvi-man-to-man) Lying ill, Birkin meditates on his abhorrence of conventional love and marriage, desiring a pure, polarized relationship with Ursula. He proposes a blood-brotherhood to Gerald. ### [Moony](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xix-moony) Recovers from illness in the south of France; experiences a revelation about individual singleness and decides to propose to Ursula; visits her home and informs her father. ### [Gladiatorial](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xx-gladiatorial) Frustrated after his proposal to Ursula, Birkin seeks out Gerald and engages in a philosophical and physical confrontation. ### [Threshold](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxi-threshold) Drives the car, seemingly unconscious of Gudrun and Gerald's mockery of his views on marriage and paradise. ### [XXII: Woman to Woman](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxii-woman-to-woman) Arrives to find the two women together and tries to placate both with small talk, but is caught in the antagonistic atmosphere. ### [Excurse](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxiii-excurse) Drives Ursula into the countryside, gives her rings, and leads her into a night of profound physical and spiritual connection, feeling like an Egyptian pharaoh. ### [XXV: Marriage or Not](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxv-marriage-or-not) Argues against the traditional love-and-marriage ideal, advocating for a broader relationship that includes a sacred bond between men. ### [A Chair](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxvi-a-chair) Argues against materialism and fixed homes, expresses desire for a 'further fellowship' beyond his relationship with Ursula, and engages with the young working-class man. ### [Flitting](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxvii-flitting) Arrives to help with the flitting; his presence enlivens Ursula; supports the idea of freedom over domesticity. ### [Gudrun in the Pompadour](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxviii-gudrun-in-the-pompadour) His letter is read aloud and mocked by Halliday's group; he is discussed as having married Ursula. ### [Continental](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxix-continental) Walks with Gerald, discussing the finality of Gerald's relationship with Gudrun and expressing his own love for Gerald. ### [Snowed Up](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxx-snowed-up) Departs with Ursula, mentioned only in passing. ### [XXXI: Exeunt](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/chapters/xxxi-exeunt) Birkin is deeply affected by Gerald's death, touches the frozen body, and reflects on love, death, and the need for a male bond. ## Links - HTML: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters/rupert_birkin - Book: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se - All characters: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/women_in_love_se/characters