# Frederick Tilling — Lay Down Your Arms character guide > Frederick Tilling in Lay Down Your Arms by Bertha von Suttner. **Role:** major **Also known as:** Frederick, Tilling, Frederick v. Tilling, Dear Frederick, Frederick III **First appearance:** 0003-i ## Who they are A colonel who marches to war with horror rather than glory, torn between military duty and the wife he cannot bear to leave behind. ## Relationships ### [Father Radetzky](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/father_radetzky) _friendship_ Father Radetzky is a close confidant and spiritual advisor to Frederick, offering guidance and support. ### [Martha Tilling](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/martha_tilling) _family_ Frederick and Martha are husband and wife, sharing a deep marital bond. ### [Countess Lori Griesbach](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/countess_lori_griesbach) _romantic_ Countess Lori is a former lover of Frederick, with lingering romantic tension between them. ### [Little Rudolf Dotzky](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/little_rudolf_dotzky) _family_ Frederick is the father of Little Rudolf Dotzky (his son with Martha Dotzky). ### [Conrad Althaus](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/conrad_althaus) _friendship_ Conrad and Frederick are close friends and allies, often working together. ### [Martha Dotzky](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/martha_dotzky) _romantic_ Frederick had a romantic relationship with Martha Dotzky, resulting in a child. ### [Aunt Mary](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/aunt_mary) _family_ Aunt Mary is Frederick's aunt, offering maternal guidance and affection. ### [Father Radetzky](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/father_radetzky) _friendship_ Father Radetzky is a close confidant and spiritual advisor to Frederick, offering guidance and support. ### [Martha Tilling](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/martha_tilling) _family_ Frederick and Martha are husband and wife, sharing a deep marital bond. ### [Countess Lori Griesbach](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/countess_lori_griesbach) _romantic_ Countess Lori is a former lover of Frederick, with lingering romantic tension between them. ### [Martha Dotzky](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/martha_dotzky) _romantic_ Frederick had a romantic relationship with Martha Dotzky, resulting in a child. ### [Martha Tilling](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/martha_tilling) _family_ Frederick and Martha are husband and wife, sharing a deep marital bond. ## In the story ### [Lay Down Your Arms](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/lay-down-your-arms) Martha's second husband, a baron who resolves to quit military service after personal tragedy. ### [First Years of Widowhood—Solitude, Study, Enlarged Views—I Return Into Society—Renewed Enjoyment of Life—Thoughts of Second Marriage—I Chaperon My Younger Sisters—I Am Introduced to Baron Tilling—He Brings Me an Account of the Manner of Arno's Death](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/iii) Introduced at the end of the chapter; brings Martha an account of Arno's death. ### [IV](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/iv) Shares his anti-war sentiments with Martha; writes her a letter from his mother's deathbed. ### [V](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/v) Engaged to Martha; argues against war and refuses to quit the military despite pressure. ### [Chapter VI](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/vi) Martha's husband, who is against war in principle but would fight if it comes; his regiment is not initially deployed, bringing mixed relief. ### [Chapter VII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/vii) Writes letters describing his experiences, his hatred of war, and his encounter with Godfrey. ### [VIII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/viii) Returns wounded from war; resolves to quit military service due to his aversion to war and love for Martha; later forced to remain due to loss of fortune. ### [Chapter IX](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/ix) Martha's husband; mentioned as the source of her perfect bliss, contrasted with Lilly's engagement to Conrad. ### [Chapter X](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/x) Martha's husband, serving in the war; recipient of Martha's letter and object of her longing and fear. ### [Chapter XI](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xi) Narrates the chapter through a letter to Martha, describing his experiences on the battlefield. ### [XII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xii) Wounded at Königgrätz; Martha searches for him but does not find him. ### [Chapter XIII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xiii) Recovering from wounds, comments on war's brutality and the 'feeling in droves' phenomenon. ### [XIV](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xiv) Martha's husband; provides comfort and love during the crisis. ### [Chapter XV](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xv) Martha's husband; debates the chaplain on war and peace, and comforts Aunt Cornelia. ### [Chapter XVI](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xvi) Martha's husband; actively seeks influential contacts for his career and helps preserve Martha from the distractions of high society. ### [Chapter XVII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xvii) Martha's husband; interested in the judgments of literary figures during the war's onset. ### [Chapter XVIII](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xviii) Martha's husband; discusses war news, is suspected of espionage, and is executed. ### [XIX](https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/chapters/xix) Deceased husband; his death and peace efforts are central to Martha's grief and activism. ## Links - HTML: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters/frederick_tilling - Book: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se - All characters: https://www.betterreads.dev/discover/lay_down_your_arms_se/characters